It is a sad world we live in when negativity surrounds us and the desire to blame and criticise others becomes the default reaction to just about any situation, announcement or decision. How can we lock out this negative vibe and drive ourselves forward with more productive through processes?
I periodically go through phases of life where I become a little addicted to online forums and the comments sections of online newspapers. A few weeks ago it really hit me how negative people are about just about EVERYTHING! Take this article for example – merely a story about an entrepreneur who wishes to create a bar which offers a real-life VIP experience from those who seek it with a champagne fountain and gold-plated toilets. The response was vitriolic with comment after comment about why it would not work and what a waste of money this venture would prove to be.
Granted there are some concerning plans about hammerhead sharks on display inside enormous tanks, but at this point the sharks are yet to materialise. So why are people so quick to bring others down? It happens constantly, articles on government decisions, football games and everything in between. What do people get out defaulting to criticism, especially when it has no impact on their own lives.
I recognise the irony of writing a critical blog piece about those who criticise, so I’ll take the high ground and change direction now. I see blame and criticism as a method people use to deflect attention from what is happening in their own lives. Some people that are unhappy find it easier to become emotional about topics that have no impact on them, as a way to ignore the issues that are actually causing their unhappiness. Others probably find that by criticising, trolling or blaming others they can get a feeling of power or influence over others; assuming power of a situation by instigating conflict.
A part of moving on from this negative mindset is to make a commitment to yourself not to let others influence your happiness or state of mind. An old friend of mine has recently started a business and posted this great article on how to trigger a positive mindset. This is a great starting point for everyone and once you explicitly decide to stop letting the actions of others affect your mindset, you can stop being reactive and start being the best you.
Further viewing: Mel Grieg, TEDxAdelaide2015: Internet trolls, a Duchess, me and what I learnt